What Matters to you most in life?

  • Money and Wealth?
  • Work and Career?
  • Success & Accomplishments?
  • Recognition & Admiration?
  • Achievement & Fame?
  • Competitiveness & Winning?
  • Love and Sex?

Or, are you a person who favors:

  • Relationships?
  • Competence?
  • Leadership?
  • Credibility?
  • Compassion?
  • Contribution?
  • Spirituality?
  • Peace?
  • Morals?
  • Principles?
  • Politics?
  • Health?
  • Creativity?
  • Social impact?
  • Originality?
  • Innovation?
  • Making the world a better place?

How do you transform your life with self-knowledge?

  • 1 Decision-making Strategies for Success. How do you make decisions?
  • 2 Leadership Skills and Alpha Potential. "If you ain't the lead dog, the scenery never changes."
  • 3 Are you Tactile, Acoustic or Visual?
  • 4 Your Negotiation Style. How do you typically go about getting what you want?
  • 5 How to Set in Motion Your Hidden Genius?
  • 6 Competitiveness, Wealth & Finances. How do you deal with life on the material plane?
  • 7 Eliminating Non-supportive Conditioning. Are there toxic habits or people in your life?
  • 8 Are you a Social Being or an Individual? Do you need people around? Or do you work best alone?
  • 9 Can you Work with Groups? As a leader? An advisor?
  • 10 Relationship to Past & Future. Are you an optimist? Does the past matter to you?
  • 11 How to Use Doubt, Confusion or Anxiety. How do you typically resolve doubt? Do you get upset?
  • 12 True and False Motivations & Inspiration. Are you trying to prove yourself often?
  • 13 Will Power & Creativity Capacity Ratio. Are you tenacious? Willful? A risk taker?
  • 14 Identity, Love, Self-worth & Direction.
  • 15 What are Your Emotional Triggers?
  • 16 Focus, Concentration & Being in the Flow.
  • 17 Are you Right Minded or Left Minded? A left-minded individual is strategic, they can only focus on one thing at a time. A right-minded person is receptive. They remember through being present. Trying to be focused is very unhealthy for them. Conversely, if the left-minded person does not focus, they will remember nothing. If a right-minded person sits in a class or lecture, and stay present, they will remember everything that was presented.

Wheel of self-knowledge for accurate personal growth


People only get upset for 3 reasons: (1) their expectations fall short, (2) they decided to avoid the truth and avoid confrontation or (3) their intentions did not manifest.

Human beings typically organize their behavior as a function of the situations they are in. Our overall demeanor at a bar is different than at work, at home with our children or while giving a speech at a University. Seldom do we realize that it is the milieu that controls our behavior patterns, not the behavior itself. The milieu, situations and the overall circumstances of our lives act as very powerful behavior organizers and modifiers. I have broken down milieu into five potent parts. In my view, there are five main areas that affect behavior and emotional life instantly and radically.

Think of a “Self-knowledge, Emotional Intelligence & Intuitive Awareness” coach as an expert problem solver. There are essentially three types of awareness: emotional, psychological or intellectual and physical. The fourth one is spiritual awareness but it only manifests when the first three are aligned. Spiritual awareness is not at all religious in essence but rather the undeniable consciousness that “something” is here watching what is happening on the stage of life.

By asking the right questions and looking where you have not looked before, you become aware of these three awareness potentials. For instance, you bring a behavior, a spirit and an emotional attitude everywhere you go. You also bring a confidence and a truth about those behaviors. They tell the other an unbelievable amount of detail about how you approach life, others and what you do.

“Self-knowledge, Emotional Intelligence & Intuitive Awareness” development offers you a new palette of skills to work from and bring to the table. People sense it in the frequency of your behavior.

It begins with your specific situation. What are you looking for that is missing or absent? What do you imagine will make a difference for you? Is it financial? Personal? Inspiration? Professional? Change? Your job? Your company? See a list of great questions to get inspired... Click here!

(1) CHARACTER: who we believe ourselves to be (the roles we play or think we are playing, as well as what we are going through emotionally such as the start of a new relationship or partnership, kid leaving for college, fear of rejection, a divorce, the mourning of someone dear, starting a new job, a false expectation, loss of a job, fear of death, etc.)

(2) CIRCUMSTANCES: what circumstance or event we are surrounded by (anniversary dinner, police line-up, religious ceremony, baseball game, exam, etc.) This includes weather conditions, unforeseen obstacles, less than desirable occurrences, physical problems, time related issues, unexpected events or mishaps, etc.

(3) PLACE: where we are (physically.) Do you want to stay or leave? Is it familiar or unfamiliar? Small or really large? Stuffy or comfortable? etc.

(4) RELATIONSHIP: with whom we are with (relationship dynamics at play.) There are three types I have identified clearly: relationship through blood or family (daughter, brother, husband, cousin, step-son, daughter in law, etc.), professional relationship such as customer/employee, attorney/client, owner/secretary, colleagues, classmates, cop/citizen, etc., and lastly, relationship of obvious differences which affect behavior such as young/old, Chinese/Indian, able/unable, man/woman, child/adult, victim/perpetrator, robber/person being robbed, etc. Obviously these types mix and you can be related to the same person on all three levels.

(5) INTENTIONS/NEGOTIATIONS: what intentions we carry out (all intentions invite negotiations and obstacles to surmount.)

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Digging Deeper

Knowing what your well-being and success hierarchy is, can be extremely valuable. It acts as a signpost when things do not feel right.

Additionally, if your own individual hierarchy is not respected, it can potentially lead to the following issues (the signposts when life doesn't feel good). When these signposts are activated, it is time to realign to what matters to you most. Adjustments must be made to take yourself back to alignment.

Here are some symptoms when life is out of balance:

Out of integrity, lies, lack of trust, worry, stress and tension, betrayal, fear to be judged, negative internal monologues, confusion, strongly held beliefs or perspectives, lengthy unnecessary explanations, loud unfounded opinions, non-stop blabbering, judgements, unfair criticism, verbal attacks, all forms of oppression and repression (physical, emotional, mental, etc.), violence, covert hatred, slander, and gossip.

More examples:

...righteousness, pressure, inhibition, lack of self-worth, conceit, nervousness, timidity, dishonesty, envy, jealousy, obsession, covert anger, provocation, indifference, threat, arrogance, silent treatment, rage, blame, guilt, and shame, people pleasing, inconsistencies, avoidance, burnout, health problems, chronic dissatisfaction, depression, panic attacks, abuse, drug use, criminal behavior, severe anxiety, personality disorder, money problems, unmanageable debt, bankruptcy, and possibly suicide.

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